It is very common for coaches to feel bad when their athletes suffer disappointments, so what’s the best way to deal and cope with this situation when it arises? Denise used to use techniques and rational thinking to help the Scotland National athletes, ‘park it’ so that they could quickly learn from poor performances and plan for the next one. Nowadays, Denise no longer uses strategies to help athletes to feel better; instead, she points them towards understanding their reality and how it is created, from the inside to out. It may seem a little odd to suggest that coaches do not need to intervene, that there is nothing wrong or to be done. By using a parenting example, Denise shares a recent shift which has helped her family enormously.
Rudi and Denise talk about a behavioural performance model; that dealing and working on poor behaviours, with consequences, and discipline procedures are missing the point, i.e. it is too late by then as all responses are an effect of a person’s state of mind in the moment and not the cause of the problem.
Whatever people think, it is going to look real and true to them; however, with a glimpse of how the mind works to create our separate realities, you can take a step back and see that thought is a construction, not an instruction. We gain a deeper respect for diversity; wisdom shows us we no longer need to be right.
How does an understanding of the inside out nature of life change the use of the Performance Analysis? Are sportspeople mistakenly comparing and over-thinking today about yesterday’s performances? Is this preventing a stronger download signal of fresh, innovation in the moment?
Traditionally, we identify talented athletes as those who demonstrate attributes, i.e. being self-determined, keen willingness to learn, capacity to overcome adversity, self-less, highly driven, ability to self-analyse, and be self-motivated etc. If you were to truly understand that experience is created from within and projected out as our separate realities and is not caused by the situation or circumstances, how different would this list be of desirable characteristics? If athletes profoundly know that no-one or nothing is to blame for their feeling state, how many of these attributes are redundant? If athletes are not afraid of their experiences and merely allow their minds to clear naturally, qualities to 'get over' poor performances wouldn't be required. Is it possible that athletes who have learned to control and manage their thinking fall into mediocrity, and settle for something way short of what's possible given the infinite divine intelligence to produce incredible human performances?
The subject of adaptation is widely researched and discussed, especially in the field of sport. Many people resonate with knowledge-based, application of tools and techniques which appears to result in change over time. Few, however, refer to the sustainable transformations, which happen naturally, when a person experiences an insight or deep realisation. Rudi Kennard and Denise Holland, look beyond information and experience to develop and master human performance, towards what is innately part of every human being, irrespective of knowledge gained cognitively.
It is difficult to conceive as humans the notion that, we (the person) are not in charge and that we connect to a higher power in us, which seems to have life unfold perfectly. As Sydney Banks referred to often, the IS-ness! Many questions arise, including, what's the point then, if we are merely the vessel and not the captain? There are times in our lives with little or no personal thinking that we are capable of extraordinary things. Rudi talks about his experience at Everest Base Camp, which points to two things:
1) Our connection to a divine intelligence which fuels our bodies and minds, and
2) We are more likely to sink into that performance zone (flow) state when we are not distracted by the personal head noise.
Why would sportspeople want to look in the direction of understanding the formless nature of life and experience? What is the potential impact on performance results when you start to understand how the human mind works? As a former contestant on the BBC show 'Gladiators' Rudi shares how his mental stamina was not on par with his physical prowess, which leads him to grossly under-achieve. Nowadays, as an international speaker, Rudi talks about “unconditionality” meaning that we have the potential not to be bothered by our feeling states, and perform regardless of what is going on in our head.” A knowing which is “revolutionary to our wellbeing”. All humans have an innate psychological immune system which if left alone does well at equalising us.
Denise auditions for the reality TV show, 'Take Me Out'. Amused by the prospect of winning a date on the magical Island of Fernando's, she went along with the fascinating questioning, the best and easiest to answer, was 'what is your biggest turn-off'? Answer - A chap who is never present? During the past five years, Denise has seen beautiful insights about her experience and knows that this too is made from Thought in the moment. Nevertheless, it seems to Denise that the most precious gift anyone can give to another human being is, the presence of Mind. Authentic connection and what she means by this is, a meeting of the souls, the spirit and essence of which we are all created, this is where transformation happens. What has this got to do with performance sport?
When you have superstitious thinking, it can lead to behaviours which are a little off the wall. You know they are, but you still do them, as you feel if you do not it will somehow affect future performances. What if, your entire perspective is a misunderstanding of how the human mind works and that you are innocently living in an illusion of thought every second of your being? Just like superstitious thinking, you have the free will not take your thinking seriously, no matter how real, crazy, or scary, it appears? What IS it that is fuelling our capacity as human beings to think and therefore experience and why does an understanding transform peoples' lives?
We have heard the word "unconditional' used many times in connection with the word "love." Here Denise talks about falling in love with your capacity for sports performance, unconditionally irrespective of strategic targets or KPI's. There is a distinct difference in the mindsets of sportspeople, those on the treadmill of, 'one more medal, another PB, or a rise in world rankings, searching for that missing something in their life. Then, there are those who are in it for the LOVE of the game, highly engaged with the thrill of exploring what's possible, and absorbed by their inspiration to perform rather than the results. What is your motivation? Is it fear, lack or need, based or is it purer than these somewhat negative constructs, which zap vital energy reserves? Are you one of the 10%, who are not searching but discovering and uncovering the infinite potential for performance expression in the now through your mind and body?
We are all ‘outed,' and not before time! Evolving a world where people are not ashamed of the way they feel inside is brilliant, but is this enough? Denise encourages you to look beyond what you know conceptually, to understand not the content on your perspective or worldview but how it is manufactured, i.e. the operating system of the human mind. As soon as you insightfully see how it works, you will know that there is nothing wrong with you, nothing to fix, irrespective of the states of mind you find yourself, low or high. Understanding the nature of the human experience gives humanity a chance to re-connect and relish that which binds us all, the energy, the oneness, love, and intelligence of all things.
What are people looking for when they ask high-performance coaches to help them improve their consistency of performance? Sportspeople spend hours striving for excellence in their performances. You live in a physical, practical and commercial world of sport, where being on your game can impact your income, profile, selection, rankings and contracts, so why not 'want' your best performances out there every single time? Jamie Smart takes a closer look at your personal preferences for a certain range of consistency and makes a valuable point about the weight and value you may have on it, in terms of your mental health and wellbeing.
With all the latest technology in sports science to work on human performance why look in the direction of what's behind it, who and what is the creator? What are the benefits to you as a performer, when we say that the Three Principles are playing out anyway, in all human beings, whether you know, care, or understand them? In Denise's life, since coming to this understanding of how the human mind works to create an experience, there is less worry and suffering. When you see how something works, you can see how it doesn't work. It makes no sense to spend living minutes in your story of blame, and need if it isn't serving you! Jamie Smart shares his inspirations for dedicating his life's work to pointing people towards the psychological paradigm of human experience.
“The moment you believe that who you are can be augmented by or diminished by the achievement or non-achievement of a goal you have lost sight of the truth.”
A superb quote from Jamie Smart. In this session, he speaks about the practical nature of aims and targets and how people might inadvertently use or interpret them.
Some real gems in this show, as Jamie Smart shares, what he is seeing new and fresh right now in September 2017. Our capacity for insight, as human beings are infinite; we live within the potential to have a change of heart. “Realisations happen, they are not our accomplishment, they are arising.” What if you don’t need to ‘chase’ high performance as a doing, what if results are the natural by-product of understanding how the human experience and life works?
Is it possible to not take the way you feel too seriously in any given situation? Do you have to feel a specific way to provide an excellent performance? Is this so-called ‘optimum performance state’ something athletes should be chasing? Is trying to control the mind sending athletes in the opposite direction towards busy mindedness rather than towards clarity helpful? Jamie Smart, best selling author of Clarity, (Clear Mind, Better Performance, Bigger Results) shares his personal transformational stories of feeling nervous, even terrified about performance yet somehow; he is still able to give a quality presentation. Listen here to learn more about this new dimension to the human performance.
With insight or realisation, use whichever words resonate with you as this is beyond the word, you're able to decide if an experience happened or not? Yes, this session is a little deeper, but it is scientific and practical. Recently, since seeing more about the illusory nature and neutrality of all of our experiences as spiritual yet human beings, Denise shares with you specific examples of the impact this realisation has had in her business and sporting life.
Many people accept moods as a fact of life, highs and lows, inevitable given the circumstances, but what if this just isn't made of truth? I mean it holds no water whatsoever. What if low moods, which negatively affect your productivity and performance results, has nothing to do with situations at all? What if, whatever your boss or coach says to you, has no power to make you feel the way you do? Who would you be cross with, who could you blame for your moods? Join Denise in this show to take a closer look at the real cause of mood states.
What is the secret of great athletes, legends, who dominate and capture the hearts of spectators and even whole communities? In this show around the IAAF World Athletic Championship 2017 in London, UK, we take a closer look at two athletes at either end of their careers, Dina Asher-Smith and Usain Bolt - What do they both have in common? Could there be something so profound, and powerful, that has the potential to change the world of elite & professional sport forever?
You give your pre-season training programme lots of fresh energy and detail. You cover the traditional critical components of elite performance, technical, tactical, physical and social and emotional intelligence most diligently. Then, when you start the season, it doesn't quite look how you had imagined? Why is that? This show talks about why is it sportspeople are now looking in the direction of understanding the human experience profoundly. How does the spiritual nature of the human mind, the divine operating system, create an athlete's behaviour or responses? Why is it, you cannot afford to not look in this direction?
Is performance in sport bigger than you the person? If so, who is driving the ship and when might they/it show up to lead the way? At the Open Golf Championship 2017, Royal Birkdale, Southport, England UK, we examine the unusual behaviours in the final round of two competitors both individually desperate for the title. What prevails points us to this deeper intelligence of all things that religious people might call God, the scientists, the source, and the physicists, the quantum field – whatever, your beliefs or preferences, are you, the person really in charge?
How much influence Coaches have on an athlete's or team's performance is a controversial issue. I too would have fluffed my feathers when the Scotland National Squad did well and beat myself up when they were hopeless! What, I have since discovered, about how the human mind works to create the human experience assures me that, we cannot put a thought in another person's head? What's going on in coaching and talent development? Is it way more natural than you think? Is it that you are drawing out a unique expression of performance rather than inputting anything at all?
Is involvement in elite sport addictive? How different are you as a high achieving athlete or coach from people who strive for a better feeling in substance abuse? Recently, Denise was invited to give a talk to a group of individuals, at a recovery centre in Spain. In this show, Denise highlights the parallels between the two groups of people, innocently, looking out there in the world of form for inner peace and joy. Human performance in life has a vast range; people who are at times unable to engage, function and self-regulate to those with ultimate ambition, striving for results, status, achievement, and possessions. Are we as human beings all just up against one thing, our relationship to our thinking in the moment?
What if you could have that holiday feeling most of the time; peace of mind, contentment, fun, clarity and a stream of brilliant ideas? Do you need to wait for your holiday to feel rested? What's that all about, especially as most of us only take six weeks vacation a year? Does this mean we are doomed to live forty-six weeks a year, from a place of stress, overwhelm and frustration? This show is for you if you are playing the 'waiting' game, pushing yourself to the extreme, because you'll soon get to take some rest? Very often, this type of rationale for life ends in disaster, with health issues or illnesses.
When circumstances seem as if they have the power to make you feel a particular way, i.e. assuming that it is inevitable, you should feel like this given my situation - think again! This week Denise found herself in a slightly uncomfortable feeling, and if she didn't know any better, i.e. not to be concerned with the way she was feeling, it would have had her running for cover, but instead, wisdom showed up, and Denise was able to stay in the game! Often, we engage and give attention to particular thoughts which we then provide additional meaning (via Thought) which causes us to feel paralysed with doubt and hesitation. What if this is all an innocent understanding of not only of how life experience works but also of the nature of experience itself?